I’m 70. XXY Mosiac Male, but I don’t like being a man; it’s taken years to come to this realization. I’m rather a rare case as I was able to father 3 perfectly healthy daughters with no fertility help necessary. I’ve always struggled since just before puberty with feeling female—wanting to be female. XXY to me seems to be the explanation and the justification of why I’m this way. I’ve since learned it may not be so. Well, I claim it anyway. It’s a rather long story of how I found out I was XXY and I believe that God led me step by step toward learning of it. One drastic piece of evidence was my defective heart valve which was fixed during heart surgery for an aortic aneurysm. My body has a few non-typical male features too. I can easily wear bracelets that are sized small for women, for example. It’s too late in life for me to consider living as a woman. My wife, who I’ve been happily married to for 43 years now is not at all in favor of such a drastic move, though she has accepted me and my intersex nature as much as she can. It does help to be able to point to something like Klinefelter’s as an explanation for being who I am. It helps my 3 girls understand too. We have a very loving family. No, I can’t transition but I did have something that I thought would let me get half way there. I found a lump in my left testicle and I was hoping it would be cause for my testes to be removed. I could then go on estrogen as my hormone to keep my bones healthy. Well, after tests, it turns out that the lump is a cyst and my urologist assures me it’s nothing to be concerned about. I was crushed. I still have hopes that some urologist or some study will show that it’s safer to have these cysts removed than not. If anyone reading this (who can see my email) knows of this being true, please get in touch with me. Anyone else maybe can respond here. Oh, I used to fight my feminine desires. I thought they were sinful. I had so much guilt. How I suffered all those years for basically no reason. If you’re wondering, I did tell my wife before we were engaged about my tendencies. We both thought they would all go away after marriage. How naive. No, they get stronger the older you get I’m finding out. I’m more accepting of myself and my nature now. Whether it was XXY or something in my brain before birth, I’m really a trans woman by today’s nomenclature, because one doesn’t have to change anything on the outside; she just knows on the inside who she is—except being intersex means I’m not exactly “trans;” I’m kind of already half there… in between. I hope there’s a way that some of us can get in touch with each other. I don’t have any familiarity with this project or blog, but maybe there’s a place to post person to person. 💕 Dennia
I was invited to sign your Guestbook and I accepted. I was diagnosed officially 23/11/1976, but I was suspected with all the typical traits 2 months or so before then. This was the start of my 18 years being kept in the dark by the very people supposed to be helping me, the medical profession! It was viewed by them that for me to know everything there was to know in 1976 I would imagine my condition was much worse than it was. As it turned out, it WAS much worse than they lead me to believe! I had no idea.
Diagnosed 1996. Passionate about xxy and I/VSC rights.
Thank you for all of the hard work that's gone into this site and making these resources available to all of us in the community. There are too many other places where being XXY and/or having KS is a pejorative, disadvantage, or other negative rather than just another way to be human. We are both uniquely gifted and uniquely challenged and I am grateful to have a community in which I feel at home.
I really appreciate the work you guys have put into building this resource which is without any doubt a far superior website in terms of supporting adult XXY's who rarely get a mention in parent focussed groups and web resources. I especially like how it acknowledges our diversity and leaves no one out.